Individual Therapy
Blindsided. By my own life.
At least that's how it feels. Stuff it deeper into hiding to keep it all looking good? Or scream louder in desperation someone will get it? Flip a coin. Neither is working.
If only it made sense. I could figure it out. What's wrong with me that I can't figure this out?
Sally was flooded in an endless spiral.
Sally felt so alone – not that she was alone; it just felt that way. No one got it, and she couldn’t really explain it. Everyone saw Sally as organized and always doing the right things. In Sally’s mind, no one would care about what was keeping her awake at night.
On the contrary, it seemed that someone was always expecting more of her. It was ok for Sally most of the time because those expectations made her feel good about helping others and getting things done.
The bubbling inside of Sally got too big. Everyone expected her to KNOW what they needed. She was working her ass off for everyone else, figuring out their crap, barely sleep, and constantly tired.
Sally wanted to keep others happy and do everything she could to make the neighborhood, the school, and her workplace a little better for everyone. But at what expense?
Tim was stuck in a rut.
Tim is brilliant and fabulous at his job, continually figuring things out and getting others out of a jam. He took pride in his track record of cases won.
Most of the time, Tim was calm and cool on the outside – he had tricks for dealing with the stress. Sure he occasionally blew up at home, but they were short, and he always apologized. Yet, the fire on the inside was getting harder for Tim to control, creating stomach problems and high blood pressure.
It was getting harder to hold down his disappointment with his kids’ choices and frustration over the long hours and relentless changes to get the work done. But he was tough. Tim’s upbringing taught him not to let others know his struggles and to stay objective and not let emotions get in the way.
Tim knew his coping mechanisms – mostly bourbon and porn – were unhealthy for him and his marriage. He saw what was happening to his buddies and wanted to do something before his marriage and health were really at risk. He hoped it wasn’t too late.
Martha had tried everything.
Martha had been in therapy for years. Things would get better, but not for long.
Memories whooshed in; impulses hijacked her intentions to change. It wasn’t that she wanted her life to end; she just wanted it to stop being so hard, so painful.
Relationships were a mess, and Martha was exhausted but couldn’t sleep. She was constantly skittish at work, waiting for things to go wrong, waiting for her to be wrong. Even her kids were distancing themselves from her. Her insides were numb, hollow.
She had tried everything from talk therapy to supplements and medications to reiki. Even 'forgiving' those that harmed her. She couldn’t shake the visceral and emotional pain of her past.
It's not that people won't change. The hooks make it so difficult.
So many ideologies and expectations that we 'should' be able to handle it all, get it all right, do what experts say we have to do. Be what every ad portrays.
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Enough already!
Let's shift the lens.
Thanks to neuroplasticity, restoration and growth are possible.
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And, it's natural that you haven't figure out how to do it yet. No one has ever taught you how to figure this out. If you just 'knew how', you'd be doing it already!
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The world can pull the rug out from under you and give you more than you think you can handle. Your pain can feel like a life sentence.
We’ll start with compassion for what you are holding and how you persevere. We’ll see today as shaping from the past and that you can’t YET handle what is happening now. It’s a call for growth. Growth requires tending
You can’t think you’re way out of it.
If you could, you would have done it by now. That’s why you’re here. That’s why I’m here. Let me come alongside you.
Together we’ll create space to explore and understand yourself and your world in a way that empowers positive change. We’ll detangle the reactivity, urges, hypervigilance, and shutdown that overwhelms the mind and exhausts the body.
You are more than symptoms and diagnoses.
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The distress they can cause is real. To have your best life is not one of perfection and having nothing happen. It’s one of navigating the ups and downs of what does happen.
Sometimes survival had to be the goal. You were too young to do anything else. But now, you deserve to heal and restore your inner balance, shift to growth, and find curiosity and courage to live true to yourself and in harmony with others.
Our journey will include space to restore a healthy sense of self and grow through the good and the bad, individually and with those who matter most. It’s time for you to experience those healthy rhythms that you crave and deserve.